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Should I Cut an Addict out of My Life?

Should I Cut an Addict out of My Life?The friends and loved ones of any Albuquerque drug addict must figure out how to love the person without supporting the disease. Establishing and enforcing healthy boundaries is extremely difficult. Most people need caring, understanding help to navigate this process. In fact, there may come a time when cutting an addict out of your life is the most helpful thing you can do.

Codependency and Enabling Drug Addiction

Addiction doesn’t only affect the person using drugs. Albuquerque friends and loved ones experience a range of emotional symptoms as a result of their proximity to the addict. Addiction and mental health professionals call this condition codependency and have identified the following symptoms of this painful problem:

  • Poor communication skills
  • Emotional pain
  • Internalized anxiety
  • Low self-esteem
  • A compulsive need for people-pleasing
  • Poor boundary enforcement
  • A need for control
  • Denial

The symptoms of codependency were originally identified in the spouses of alcoholics, but over the last several decades they have occurred in the friends and families of all types of addicts, as well as people with other chronic diseases. If left unaddressed, codependency significantly increases the likelihood of substance abuse and addiction for any Albuquerque drug addict.

Treatment and Support for Codependents

Several treatment programs have evolved to help the friends and loved ones of addicts avoid the devastation of codependency – both for their own health and to help them avoid contributing to the disease of their addicted loved one. Programs like AlAnon and NarAnon provide group counseling and support sessions to educate and encourage people. Individual counseling is also quite helpful for any Albuquerque codependent.

One of the most important aspects of codependent care is the formation of healthy boundaries. Addicts avoid the consequences of their actions by using the love of friends and family to bail them out of trouble. Addicts instinctively exploit weak boundaries in the following ways:

  • Asking for financial help
  • Needing a place to stay
  • Asking loved ones to cover for them or lie to avoid consequences
  • Exploiting romantic attraction or affection in order to sustain their addiction

While some addicts get help before the consequences catch up to them, many Albuquerque residents will not. As hard as it is for loved ones to witness, many addicts must hit rock bottom before they will turn their lives around. After failing in every attempt to encourage addiction help, it may be necessary to completely cut the addict out of your life. It is important to explain the reasons for this choice and that the addict knows what he must do to be back in your life. Professional counseling is enormously helpful during this process.

Help with Albuquerque Drug Addicts

Determining how to establish and enforce healthy boundaries is not something you should do on your own. Our toll-free helpline is available 24 hour a day and our counselors can help you the way you need it. Any Albuquerque resident can call us today to determine the best way you can support your addicted loved one’s recovery.